Episode 47: Yes Parenting with Bea Marshall
/Do you ever feel like you are just constantly saying "NO" as a parent?
No to your kids...
No to your partner...
No to joy, ease, connection...
No to yourself...
You are not alone! So often in parenting we focus so much on the "no's".
"No, you can't eat that."
"No, you can't have more screens."
"No, I don't have time for my old yoga class."
If it feels like you are "stuck in no" right now, I'm here to help you, and I've called in the Queen of "Yes" my friend and colleague Bea Marshall of "Yes Parenting".
When her first son was born, Bea wanted what most of us think we want when we become parents: Happy children who listen. In service of this she became super controlling and used whatever she could to gain compliance (time outs, reward charts, etc). However, her son became distant and was far from being compliant, happy, and relaxed. She finally had a moment where she realized that saying "no" wasn't working for her neurodiverse family, and she started looking for the YES in every situation. And so, for this episode, Bea will help us learn the Yes Parenting approach where by looking for and embracing YES (for your kids AND yourself) you can find more joy, peace, connection, and ease in your family.
She brings a level of levity and REALNESS to her work that I just know you're going to appreciate.
DISCLAIMER: There's a little bit of explicit words used in this episode but rest assured, these words are used with PURPOSE to explain a practical process to guide parents in Yes Parenting. It is her F.U.C.K. this S.H.I.T. method for getting a pause, looking under behavior, & parenting with connection. This is one of the things
Here's an overview of what we talked about:
Understanding the root cause to be in control
Relationship between our unmet needs and our need to be in control
Tips on how to meet our need for control and power
Principles of Yes Parenting (How to say Yes to yourself and to your children)
If you want to learn more about this approach, follow Bea on Instagram and be sure to visit her website www.beamarshall.com where you can find more resources. Check out her course on Yes Parenting as well. See it HERE!